About Relationships

Chat No 52:

Bab says:

Some relationships never demand personal presence. It’s the confidence in the relationship which assures that when needed the person will always be with you.

Pad says:

The term relationship is very complex. You want it but sometimes you do not want it. You create it or you are destined in a particular relationship. Relationship is very dynamic. Relationships create memories. Relationships are best if created through personal interactions and not through social media. One to one relationship will only stand the test of time. Once a relationship is created it needs to be glued well by the persons concerned then personal presence becomes insignificant. If relationship has to instill confidence it should create a sense of togetherness and involvement in speech and action. Building relationships requires you to spend lots of time and space, but time is money and space is a constraint. In this ‘priority age’ people are wise and they choose their priorities and decide whether to sustain particular relationships. Once upon a time people were not so priority- centric so relationships bloomed and was cherished. Relationship is a two way process. As long as the need, aspirations, and thoughts synchronize relationships sustain. The moment priorities, need, aspirations and thoughts starts drifting relationships falls apart and distance becomes wider. 

Believing that relationships will ensure the person to be with you during your crisis is a myth. If it happens it is a great blessing. When Abhimanyu was killed Arjuna was not with him—fate took him far away from the battle field; it was Abhimanyu’s time to die. If Arjuna was near Abhimanyu fate cannot play its role. Likewise when Sita was abducted, Rama was not there Fate ensured that Lord Rama moves away from the scene so that the Epic can be created. Both these are the most intimate relationships yet the person concerned could not stand by them. These days’ relationships are maintained to share information and participations are restricted to priority people. The new name for all relationships is ‘Networking’. A net is woven with space in between. Similarly relationships these days demand space and privacy; can be sustained only if you are their priority. Once upon a time professional and personal relationships were different, today all relationships have become professional. “Relationships are based on “win/lose” and ‘attack/defend’. Egos are involved and affect the outcome.”(Edward de Bono) 

Perceptions, assumptions and misunderstandings destroy even long standing relationship. Long lasting relationships are a distant dream these days; it vanishes when the need from you diminishes.

Relationships blooms with love, affection and compassion; it can sustain if based on strong understanding, open communications, mutual involvement, and on a one to one basis. “No matter how well read or educated we become, we still need to realize the importance of family and how no amount of money can match the wealth of strong relationships.”(KarthinSivakumar).

“I hope you understand” (102 Not out)